Today I’m going to talk about “truths” and how, as humans, we avoid confronting reality, which can lead to mental health issues in the long run. I don’t care who you are, because we all do it to ‘avoid reality’ without realising we are shutting down a part of ourselves to an experience. We resent doing it, even if we do it unconsciously to avoid the pain of an experience. The separation of self will make us sad, and if we continue to be sad, depression will follow.
Truth is the property of being in accordance with fact or reality. Truth is typically assigned to things that aim to represent reality or otherwise correspond to it in everyday language, such as beliefs, propositions, and declarative sentences.
Why do we avoid looking at truth?
So why do we avoid looking at the truth? Because seeing the truth of life can be painful. A simple example is an overweight person who avoids looking in the mirror and continues to eat too many of the wrong foods. They know they are overweight, but they don’t want to admit it to themselves. Maybe they try to escape reality by playing video games or watching Netflix, and anyone who brings up the subject with them makes them angry.
The truth can be painful.
In my personal life, I’ve always struggled to maintain a positive relationship with my son; I pushed him away, and he reacted by annoying me for attention, straining the relationship. I wondered why we were having this problem. Was I a bad parent? Was my son a jerk?
None of these were correct; I did my best to raise my son well, and he was just a kid responding to my unconscious actions. I had to look deeper into my behaviour and face the fact that I was pushing my son away because my father had pushed me away and my grandfather had pushed my father away.
I discovered that they expected men to be strong, alpha male archetypes, and that I never fit into this category. My father and I never developed the father-son relationship that I wished we had. I now want to talk to my father about our relationship and what I’ve learned in the hopes that it will bring us closer together.
This is just one truth I chose to share today; we all have hundreds, if not thousands, of others to discover.
I think that the only way to become a more self-actualized and enlightened person is to become aware of our emotions, not ignore the painful ones and seek our own truths!
Share yours in the comments. You never know, it might help others in search of theirs.